Rebecca Stanley

Lawyer/Mediator (Van/Surrey)
Rebecca Stanley

Rebecca’s calm, strength and wisdom provide her clients with a solid anchor in the sometimes stormy seas of separation and divorce. Her focus is on empowering people as they navigate the unique stresses (and opportunities) that accompany these significant life transitions.  Rebecca feels fortunate to be part of the Connect team, a collective of legal professionals and staff who understand that it is a privilege to support families through times of challenge and transformation. 

Rebecca brings a rich background to her family law and mediation practice, having previously worked with families as a UBC chaplain and pastor. As well, her undergraduate and graduate studies included courses in marriage and family counselling, which taught her to attune to the emotional aspects of separation and divorce as well as the legal ones.  While not a therapist, Rebecca works with families holistically, listening to their stories and connecting them with professional and community resources when needed. 

During her legal training, Rebecca completed various court-intensive work experiences, serving as a Judicial Extern to Vancouver’s Provincial Court judiciary while in law school and as a BC Supreme Court law clerk following graduation.  Her law clerk role in particular, where she assisted six judges and oversaw family law projects for the whole court, provided her with invaluable insight into the court process and the rare opportunity to learn at the feet of judges.  This experience together with her training in collaborative law and mediation enable Rebecca to provide her clients with the full array of dispute resolution options to resolve their family law issues, including litigation when necessary. 

As a practitioner, her sole focus has been family law. Before joining Connect, Rebecca articled at Alexander Holburn LLP in Vancouver, then relocated with her family to Abbotsford where she ran a busy family law practice at RDM Lawyers.  

In her work as a Certified Family Mediator, Rebecca enjoys creating a safe and private environment for separating couples to problem-solve together. She believes strongly that, even in the face of the deep challenges of separation and divorce, people can still “be their best selves” and forge a way forward.  Rebecca comes to this work with previous experience mediating in the small claims arena and extensive training in family mediation, which included learning how to work with high conflict individuals, assess for family violence, and include the voice of children in the process.

As a fourth generation Vancouverite, Rebecca is so grateful to be back in the city where she, her husband and their three teenagers lived for nearly 10 years.  While her days as a soccer mom and Little League team manager are over, she continues to enjoy community life and watching her kids finish high school and forge their own paths.  She is also a board member of the society that oversees the Menno Simons Centre, a student residence just off the UBC campus.  In those rare moments of rest and fun, Rebecca enjoys walks
at the beach, stargazing, baking up a storm, drinks with friends and, occasionally, reliving the carefree adventures of youth.

In her own words: Rebecca likes to help families find peace as they move through the difficult process of divorce and separation.