Out-of-Court Options: Part 2

October 16, 2017
Rebecca Stanley

Earlier this month, I reviewed a number of options available to separating spouses who are willing - and able - to resolve their issues outside of the courtroom: a "kitchen table agreement", mediation and negotiation. Today,in the conclusion to my two-part post on out-of-court family law processes, I discuss three more:

1. Collaborative Law

Collaborative law is a holistic approach to negotiation in which everyone – the spouses, their lawyers, and (if necessary) financial experts and/or counsellors – agrees to work together to fashion a complete settlement without going to court.  A child specialist can be included on the team to monitor how the children are experiencing their parents’ separation.  Collaborative settlement can be used even by couples going through very difficult separations.  

A key disadvantage to this approach can also be seen as an advantage: If the collaborative process is unsuccessful, you and your former spouse will have to start again from scratch with new lawyers. However, this means that there is high incentive for all involved to come to the table with minds set on amicably working together to envision a way forward and provide you with all the tools you need to resolve outstanding issues.

2. Arbitration

In this (probably most underused) process, you and your former spouse hire a neutral person (often a family law lawyer with additional training) to be your arbitrator and agree that he or she will have the authority to resolve your dispute.  Like court orders, arbitration decisions are binding.  Although arbitration can look a lot like a court process, it is private and much faster than litigation, and the spouses can decide how the arbitrator will manage and decide their case.   In some cases, you can hire the professional to act as a mediator first and then only become an arbitrator if you and your ex are unable to reach agreement through mediation.  This is known as med-arb.

3. Parenting Coordinators

The Family Law Act highlights the role parenting coordinators can have in helping people resolve disputes about the care of children once there is an agreement or final order in place.  Some things to know about parenting coordinators:

When making a decision about which out-of-court process to pursue, consider what will likely be most effective in your family’s particular circumstances.  Discuss these options with your former spouse, or have your lawyer send information to them on a process that makes sense to you.  But be flexible.  These out-of-court processes do take two willing people who desire to move ahead despite the pain.

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(This post was adapted from a fact sheet originally written by Rebecca Stanley for the People’s Law School).  

Rebecca Stanley
Rebecca Stanley
Lawyer/Mediator (Van/Surrey)
Connect Family Law

Rebecca provides her clients with a solid anchor in the sometimes stormy seas of separation and divorce. She feels fortunate to be part of the Connect team, who understand that it is a privilege to support families through times of transition.