Back to Work, Post-Divorce

October 15, 2018
Leisha Murphy

The prospect of returning to work after being out of the paid workforce can be daunting at the best of times. Making this leap on the heels of separation or divorce can seem downright overwhelming, if not paralyzing. If this fits with your experience, remember to be kind and patient with yourself. Here are five more tips for those of you who are heading back to work, post divorce:

1. Don't rush into anything. If you have been out of the workforce for a while, you will need time to consider your options. You also need to give yourself space and time to grieve the end of your marriage. It can be challenging (to put it mildly) to present your best self in an interview when your energy and mood are low.

2. Take a self-inventory. You have probably changed since you were last employed and certainly a divorce can be transforming. Re-evaluate where you are at and what you want to do.

3. Leverage your skills. While it might be tempting to launch into a completely different career post-divorce, this can require significant re-training, which can be costly both in terms of taking courses and not being employed full-time. The easiest way to re-enter the workforce is to do something familiar. Consider your current skill set and what jobs you are qualified to do. If you are still craving change after returning to work, distance education or night courses are an excellent way to test new areas of interest while still earning an income. If you are completing courses on a part-time, gradual basis, you may also not feel as obligated to finish them if they turn out to be less interesting than you had hoped.

4. Create a solid support network. This network includes yourself and positive people who will help bolster your confidence.

5. Look at this as an opportunity to re-boot your career or start something new.

For a slightly different perspective on this issue, read Kent Employment Law lawyer Kimberly Darling’s blog post here.

Leisha Murphy
Leisha Murphy
Partner (Vancouver)
Connect Family Law

Leisha takes a heart-forward approach to her practice. Providing clients with guidance and education, she takes a “big picture” view , assessing the long-term impacts of decisions to ensure the best possible outcome for you and your family.